10 Reasons Why You Should STOP Having Sex With Men Who Don’t VALUE You!


Attention:  Ladies, Sistahs, SistahFriends and Women in General.  Let’s talk about “Casual Sex” for a minute.  After listening to several conversations had by my female relatives and friends, I felt the need to create this list.  I hate seeing intelligent and worthy women selling themselves short to be with a man who only wants them for sex. Don’t sell yourself short.  Before you continue reading, please know that this list ONLY applies to those of you that want to be in committed relationships and/or get married.  If you don’t…?  It’s Not for you.  I ain’t got nothing against single people hooking up with no strings IF that is what they BOTH want.  But that is never the case from what I hear.  No. This is for those of you who are in long term-sex-mostly-relationships who want more but are not getting it.

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Here are my 10 Reasons Why You Should STOP Having Sex With Men Who Don’t Value You!

#1:  STD’s.  STD’s. STD’s. If he is continuing to do you without real commitment, then he is doing someone else too. 

Please believe that he is!  This is how diseases spread.  Make sure you protect yourself.

#2:  Guys don’t typically “wife”  their F&%*Buddies. 

Yes some do, but marriages/relationships based on sex will only last as long as you are ok with being used.

#3:  How are you going to feel when he proposes to the next chick that’s not giving it to him? 

You say you are ok with this arrangement and you might just be!  Until he walks someone else down that aisle.  I’ve seen this too many times!

#4.  You are worth more than that.  

I can’t stress this enough!  KNOW your worth.  Many of us know our worth when it comes to MONEY.  But do you know your worth when it comes to sex and commitment?

#5:  Know that he does not respect you.  

He knows what you want.  Is unwilling to give it to you, but still wants to climb in your bed??  No Sir!  That is not respect.

#6:  Nobody gets younger.  Yes we are aging every day.  

Don’t waste your youth and your beauty on a man that only wants to pleasure himself with you.

#7:  What is in it for you to keep doing this?  

You already know that he cant give you what you want.  OH you think that sex will change his mind?  Let me know how that works out for you!

#8:  While you’re wasting time with him, there could be someone else out there waiting for you.

Someone who will cherish you and value you.  But maybe thats not what you want.  If not.  Keep doing you.

#9:  Make no mistake…He IS using you.

I mean, you can call it what you want.  But with no actual dates, meaning he doesnt take you anywhere but to the store.  Can’t be seen with you but can be in your bed.  I call it being used.

#10:  You deserve better.

The bottom line is that you need to think about your worth.  What are you worth?  I hope you believe that you are deserve more than just a romp in the sheets. You deserve to be respected, cherished and loved.


There are a THOUSAND more reasons, but these are my best 10 and the first that came to my mind.  If you needed this… you’re welcome.  If you didn’t…Why did you read it?  You’re still welcome.

Are you in a sex-only relationship that you think is real?

LOL.  I turned off the comments.

Stacey Taylor aka “The SistahChick” is the CEO of The SistahChick & Co., LLC which is the parent company of TheSistahCafe.com(blog) Our Natural Kids (website), Sistah Buttah (product), TSC Media (service). I have turned my hobby into my career. Now I am living my dreams of being an entrepreneur and living my best life. Thank you for coming to The Sistah Cafe to read about my journey & adventures!!