Many people are under the mistaken impression that the older we get, the less we want or need sex. Well I am here to tell you that it’s not always true. Not only is sex still desirable but sex gets better with age! I mean just check out late night commercials and daytime TV ads. If they are not trying to get you to “rise up” for sex then they are enticing you with sexual accessories and herbal enhancers! The sex industry for people middle aged and older is a real thing for a reason.
This is where being in a committed relationship comes in handy. (yeah I bet you thought this entire article would be just about sex) Being with someone you love and in a long term relationship opens you up to be able to explore more as well as enjoy a familiarity with your partner. I have heard people say before that the thought of being with the same person forever scares them when it comes to marriage. When you think about it, it’s beautiful to grow mentally, spiritually and sexually with the same person. It’s about intimacy. When it comes to sex, it’s not really all about pounding each other to death, its about indulging in each other’s desires and fantasies. Its about trust and knowing the other persons needs and them knowing yours. It’s about companionship and compatibility. Trust me things are much more erotic when you can do away with your inhibitions and doubt and be with someone that you know and trust, like your spouse. Trying new things becomes an adventure. And whether you succeed or fail in that adventure it doesn’t matter because you know that your mate is there to stay and there is security in that.
5 Reasons Why Sex Gets Better With Age
1. Less Body Image Issues.
Whether you work out or not. By the time you hit 40, your body image will become less of an issue for you. At this point in life, you have decided that you are either comfortable with what you have or you are doing something to change it, either way you work with it.
2. Aware of Your Needs.
With age comes awareness, you are more in tune with your body and what it wants and needs. Don’t be afraid to communicate this this to your mate.
Face it, you’ve been around the block a couple of times by now….even if its with the same mate. You know what to do and how to do it.
4. Changes in the Nest.
For many of us, the kids are grown and gone or older and no longer interested in being underfoot. There is a decrease in scheduled activities. This gives you more time and space to be alone, together.
The older you get, the more stable you are in all areas. You know who you are and you know what you have. You may still be trying to find your way on a few things, but for the most part you are stable. This stability allows you to remove some of the inhibitions that you may have had when you were younger.
I can honestly say that I am enjoying aging with my husband. We have known each other since we were in our 20’s. As we move towards our 50’s, we find much humor in the changes that inevitably happen to everyone’s body over time. No we aren’t pulling down curtains and breaking water beds anymore. We are simply enjoying the exploration of each other body, mind and soul in a safe and trusting environment, together. And just like fine wine, it will only get better with time!
Do you agree that sex gets better with age?